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November 9, 2016

A Tough Conversation About Trump With Our 6-Year-Old

"How are we going to tell Avi that Trump won,?" Steve said to me this morning.

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She's heard some of the things Trump's said.

She's listened to us talk about what we value in our house:

  • We always show respect to others
  • We value and embrace others who are different
  • We act when someone's getting bullied
  • You can be anything you want to be, as long as you're good at it and it makes you happy
  • Above all, we are kind

And, we speak our truths with quiet courage and in kind and respectful ways. (Damn. That's a really tough one here.) 

As much as my Papa Bear instinct was kicking in and I was getting in protection mode, I knew the best way to "protect" her (and 4-year-old Noa) was to use this moment as another teaching and coaching moment.  And do it in a way she could hear us and process what we're sharing in a way that wouldn't make her feel fearful.

"Let's rock, paper, scissors," I told Steve jokingly.  So I walked upstairs to Avi's bedroom, gave her a hug and walked downstairs. We then had "the talk" together.

So we told her what we thought and how we felt, in the best age-appropriate (6 going on 12) way we knew how. We also told her the President doesn't affect our day-to-day lives very much and won't change how we act, what we believe or who we are as people. I also said we need to give him a chance to be the President for all, as he's promising.

She was uncharacteristicly quiet. I asked her about how she was feeling about what I just said.

She shrugged her shoulders. I sensed she was processing the discussion. It was a lot for 5 am!

"We'll talk more at dinner, " I said.

It was a start. And I sense just the first of many more difficult and important conversations.

What tough conversations are you avoiding that you need to have?

- David Grossman


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